150 This or That Questions (Fun, Fast & Perfect for Getting to Know Someone)

How to play this or that

One person reads two options — “coffee or tea?” — and the other answers immediately. The rule is speed: the first instinct is the most honest answer. After a round of ten, go back to the most surprising pick and ask why.

You can also play it as a matching game. Both people answer at the same time by pointing left or right, or writing their answer down. Count how many you match. It is a quick, funny way to see how alike you really are.

Classic this or that questions

Quick, easy and perfect for warming up.

• Coffee or tea?
• Morning or night?
• Beach or mountains?
• Cats or dogs?
• Summer or winter?
• Sweet or salty?
• Books or movies?
• Call or text?
• City or countryside?
• Pizza or burgers?
• Sunrise or sunset?
• Stay in or go out?
• Rain or sunshine?
• Pancakes or waffles?
• Chocolate or vanilla?
• Car trip or plane trip?
• Hot drinks or cold drinks?
• Early bird or night owl?
• Netflix or YouTube?
• Shower in the morning or at night?
• Socks or barefoot?
• Window seat or aisle seat?
• Music or podcasts?
• Cake or ice cream?
• Plan everything or go with the flow?

This or that questions for couples

Ask these on a date night and try guessing your partner’s answer first. The ones you get wrong are the best stories.

• Big spoon or little spoon?
• Fancy dinner or picnic?
• Movie night or game night?
• Love letters or love songs?
• Surprise dates or planned dates?
• Holding hands or arm around the shoulder?
• Cook together or order in?
• Matching outfits or matching phone cases?
• Slow dance or silly dance?
• Anniversary trip or anniversary party?
• Good morning text or good night call?
• Sunset walk or stargazing?
• Breakfast in bed or brunch out?
• Road trip or city break?
• Flowers or chocolates?
• Romantic movie or comedy?
• Share dessert or order two?
• Couples costume or no costume?
• Weekend away or staycation?
• Love notes on the fridge or voice notes on the phone?
• Cozy cabin or beach house?
• Hug or high five after a win?
• Pet names or real names?
• First to say sorry or first to say thank you?
• Dream wedding big or small?

Like quick picks? Play a game where you guess each other's answers: Play the Couples Quiz — free, no signup.

This or that questions for friends

Perfect for group chats, sleepovers and road trips.

• Sleepover or night out?
• Group chat or one big call?
• Theme park or water park?
• Board games or video games?
• Karaoke or bowling?
• Shopping trip or hiking trip?
• Scary movie or comedy movie?
• Snacks or a full meal?
• Road trip playlist or podcast?
• Plan the trip or just show up?
• Group photo or candid photo?
• Camping or hotel?
• Birthday party or birthday dinner?
• Beach day or pool day?
• Brunch or late-night food?
• Funny friend or wise friend?
• Matching bracelets or matching hoodies?
• Concert or festival?
• Bake cookies or order pizza?
• Truth or dare?

This or that questions for your crush

Light, fun and easy to send over text. Great for keeping a conversation going without any pressure.

• Texting or calling?
• Coffee date or ice cream date?
• Cute or funny?
• Movie theater or drive-in?
• First date at a café or at an arcade?
• Sending memes or sending songs?
• Dogs or cats?
• Talk for hours or comfortable silence?
• Mystery dinner or favorite restaurant?
• Spontaneous or planned?
• Concert date or museum date?
• Hoodies or jackets?
• Sunrise or late night drive?
• Old songs or new songs?
• Rom-com or action movie?
• Walk in the park or walk on the beach?
• Board game or card game?
• Picnic or rooftop?
• Emojis or no emojis?
• Voice notes or long texts?

Food this or that questions

Everyone has strong opinions about food — these always get a reaction.

• Fries or onion rings?
• Pasta or rice?
• Spicy or mild?
• Tacos or burritos?
• Sushi or pizza?
• Ketchup or mayo?
• Popcorn sweet or salty?
• Cereal before milk or milk before cereal?
• Donuts or cookies?
• Homemade or takeaway?
• Fruit or candy?
• Hot chocolate or milkshake?
• Breakfast or dinner?
• Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?
• Cheesecake or brownies?
• Soup or salad?
• Noodles or dumplings?
• Smoothie or juice?
• Crunchy or smooth peanut butter?
• Street food or restaurant?

Kids and classroom this or that questions

Clean, simple and great for teachers, parents and family game night.

• Superhero or wizard?
• Dinosaurs or dragons?
• Crayons or markers?
• Slide or swing?
• Unicorn or mermaid?
• Space or ocean?
• Lego or puzzles?
• Cartoons or animal shows?
• Snowman or sandcastle?
• Robot or alien?
• Pirate or knight?
• Bike or scooter?
• Recess or art class?
• Bubbles or balloons?
• Jungle or desert?
• Pancakes or cereal?
• Treehouse or castle?
• Drawing or singing?
• Rainbow or fireworks?
• Zoo or aquarium?

Work and icebreaker this or that questions

Friendly and low-stakes — great for team meetings, new classes and online events.

• Work from home or the office?
• Emails or meetings?
• To-do list or go with the flow?
• Headphones or silence?
• Desk plants or desk snacks?
• Early meeting or late meeting?
• Big team or small team?
• Notebook or notes app?
• Coffee break or walk break?
• Video on or video off?
• Lunch out or packed lunch?
• Weekday off or weekend trip?
• Organized desk or creative chaos?
• Learn by doing or learn by reading?
• Big goals or small daily wins?
• Present or write the report?
• Morning person or afternoon person?
• Group project or solo task?
• Spreadsheet or whiteboard?
• Long weekend or longer holiday?

Ways to turn this or that into a game

The matching game: both players answer at the same time and score a point for every match. Ten matches out of ten? You are basically the same person. Two out of ten? Prepare for some fun arguments.

The guessing game: one person guesses how the other will answer before they do. This is the best version for couples and best friends because it tests how well you really know each other.

The story rule: after every round, each player picks one answer and tells the story behind it. “Beach or mountains?” becomes a story about the best trip you ever took.

Over text: send three questions at a time and ask for quick replies. It is an easy, low-pressure way to keep a conversation going with a new friend or crush.